Cultural and religious clothing are not the same as a bathroom or school. I'm sorry, but a Scottish person has the right to explain why their culture wears a kilt... Just a Jewish person should speak up if someone is wearing a yamaka because they think it's stylish.

No we cannot tell anyone what to do, but we can educate them and be honest by saying not everyone feels the way you do and that's ok, too.

I'm seeing a lot of praise for your"nice" approach, but it speaks to "respectability politics" - which is not cool. Just because someone says something you don't agree with or makes you uncomfortable because it challenges personal biases - that's not wrong or aggressive... that's just you facing some hard realities.

If a friend wants to wear a head wrap that's their choice, but there's nothing wrong with a conversation about why from both sides.

Someone mentioned cancer.. That would be a good reason to use head wraps and other cultures wear them... but if you're white and want to learn how to tie a gele because they just think it's cool. I would explain why some people may be upset...

That's it no argument - just a conversation. I think we need to have conversations with the intention of learning and understanding you may not understand or agree with everything...

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